When it comes to making its presence known, Love is a big communicator . . . always having a lot to say. Love is never at a loss for words (and other methods) for communicating what’s on its mind. But Love is known not merely by what it says but by what it doesn’t say.
Here are 10 Things Love Never Says . . . even when no one else is listening.
1) Love never says: You are beneath me. Love never communicates a superior attitude . . . in fact, it never even thinks this way. Philippians 2:3 Esteem others better than yourself . . .
2) Love never says: The record of your wrongs is right here for easy reference. After it’s repented of and forgiven, it’s over, never to be referenced again. 1 Corinthians 13:5 Love does not keep a record of wrongs suffered.
3) Love never says: I’ll forgive you with words but not with my heart. True forgiveness is complete and penetrates all the secret places of the heart. Only those who don’t want Jesus to forgive them refuse to forgive with more than words. Matthew 6:15 If you won’t forgive others their sins against you, your Heavenly Father won’t forgive you your sins against Him.
4) Love never says: Hurry up, you’re holding me back. Love never says this because it isn’t pushy. 1 Corinthians 13:4 Love is Patient.
5) Love never says (to a spouse): I’ve lost interest in you, physically. Your need for touch and intimacy isn’t important to me anymore. Love is too busy keeping the fires stoked to ever say anything like this. Proverbs 5: 18,19 Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice in the wife of your youth. As a loving hind and a graceful doe, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; Be exhilarated always with her love.
6) Love never says (or thinks): I really love me so your needs, interests, and desires will have to wait. Love never says this because it doesn’t put itself first. It’s too focused on seeking out and meeting the needs of others to focus on itself. 1 Corinthians 13:5 “ . . . love doesn’t seek it’s own.”
7) Love never says: One mistake (or 10) and we’re through. 1 Corinthians 13:4 Love is longsuffering. Love hangs in there for the long haul and is patient with mistakes and shortcomings. (How patient has God been with you, as you appraise the lessor moments of others?)
8) Love never says: I don’t like it when your gifts and abilities are noticed instead of mine. Love is quick to genuinely celebrate the victories, talents, and triumphs of others. 1 Corinthians 13:4 Charity doesn’t envy . . .
9) Love never says: Hey everyone, notice me. Properly appraised, I’m basically amazing. Why aren’t people focusing on me? 1 Corinthians13:4, Love doesn’t boast, and is not puffed up.
10) Love never says: My first impulse is to think the worst about you. 1 Corinthians 13:5 Love . . . thinks no evil.
God has called us to walk in love – easy words to lightly pass over in marriage, but we need to take some time to reflect on the areas of our life that are not yet conformed to the image of Christ. God accepts us as we are, bringing nothing to the foot of the cross but, He expects us to mature, to grow, living a life reflecting His Spirit in us. The first person to experience the blessings of our obedience in this matter of maturing – in putting away those things that Love doesn’t say – should be our spouse.
1 Peter 1:22 Seeing you have purified your souls in obeying the truth through the Spirit unto unfeigned love of the brethren, see that you love one another with a pure heart fervently.
If it isn’t true in our homes with those who know us best, it won’t be true anywhere else. What “Love” doesn’t say is clear. What is being said in your home?